Ki & Ka
- 14 03, 2017
- Aksh Bhardwaj FMS, Delhi
Why are the observed roles of a couple in a relationship be dependent on the approval of the society?
The modern man is standing to re-define his role in the house. No more is he bounded by the frames of a strict Dad, who returns home in the evening and to whom the kids rush with their books (the typical Dil wale Dulhaniya Le Jayenge scene). He might have become the one already waiting at home with the kids for the wife to arrive from office, with the evening soup prepared and music playing in the background.
A recently released Kareena Kapoor Khan and Arjun Kapoor starrer created the buzz and got the attention of many. It made me remember a friend of mine, who’s Dad has been staying at home for more than fifteen years, managing the household, while his wife has been taking care of the business. Their kids have fared well in their lives, with one of them pursuing a management course, in a premier B-school in the nation. So, the unconventional notion of Ki & Ka already exists in the society. But, surely the numbers are quite a few, that they can be counted on the fingers.
Marriages, as most things, are often exaggerated as a phenomenon, hard to comprehend. A lady once told me that barring 1 in 100, everyone whether man/woman wants to look great on the day of marriage and feel the exquisite happiness in thinking that nobody else is as presentable as them. The wait for the marriage is not for a reason; the need for support from a man/woman in all their decisions is huge. Kids nowadays feel that they will have those happy experiences of cuddling cheerfully ever after, however let me pull the curtains down on that, marriage is not about that. Marriage is a learning experience that must begin with the trust. It’s not just a legal binding contract that sets your roles as the home-maker or bread earner. It’s about exploring the undefined possibilities of life, while walking with someone else. Letting each other grow and understand the strengths and weaknesses of each other.
It's a beautiful experience to have a partner, yet we may not consider it excessively important. In the event, that two people wish to be together in a modern society, you'll need to abide by the rules in the society and accordingly get married. But, why should the roles to be played by the man and his wife in the family get characterized by society?
Is it less demanding to be a homemaker or a bread earner? – That’s debatable though! However terming guy in a marriage as the house-husband is definitely not something I can digest easily. It’s only suggestive of the thing that the lady is out of the house! They are home-makers. Digest it my dear friends. Being a homemaker, be it a man or lady is a ton harder in light of the fact that there is no appreciation of your endeavors even when you are on your toes for 24*7. You knowingly or unknowingly tend to underestimate the individual. It resembles doing some work with no acknowledgement or without an option of anything else to pursue. Society does not say that a man can't work at home or a lady can't work outside. It is more about two partners who need to shoulder obligations to run their family smoothly.
Let’s support our Ki & Ka and know that the marriage is about being supportive and singing to the tunes of love.